7 Prayers For The Wife Who is Hurting
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7 Prayers For The Wife Who is Hurting

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  • May 30, 2016
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You never know how much hurt many wives endure until your head and heart is deep in their stories. We have been hurt one way or the other. I confess I have too, friend.
 
The hurt for many wives may be deliberate and at other times unconsciously husbands leave wounds and we struggle in our heart to heal. 
 
Marriage is hard work and involves you and your husband. When a wife is hurting, then the home would be sick too!
 
For my one friend, she was so deep in hurt. Her hubby’s adultery had driven her nuts *literally*. That sort of wound needs God’s grace overflowing in the heart of the hurt wife. She packed her bags and was keen on calling it quits.
 
She was done, my heart knew it well.
 
That call froze me.
 
There is no telling how you would react another woman’s shoes. 
 
You never know what you are capable of
especially when those
shoes aren’t yours!
 
The situation was out of control. The words were not spewing out, my thoughts were blank, and I turned white with the flush of anger over my face.
 
I asked her to take a deep breath and let’s think about her decision.
 
Then, I hung up.
 
I confess was struggling to forgive him for her… if that makes any sense.
 
The best I came up with was more angry bouts. Lord, help me! I am so weak. I was supposed to be strong for her but my heart was not holding up.
 
Poor me!
 
Finally, I called up my hubby. He was calm *totally*. We prayed together and asked for wisdom to help a hurting friend.
 
You won’t believe what he told me…ask her to write “God Bless You” and place all the evidence she had on the bed.
 
This can’t be happening. There was no show down going to happen…at least. May be I had been prepared for that sort of stuff!
 
God’s way can look foolish to us humans. 
 
But we were going with it all the same. We spoke to her prayed for strength to go on.
 
By the evening, he was home. He read those words and broke down.
 
That message saved the marriage…Praise God!
 
What those words meant to my friend’s hubby I can’t tell but they were louder, more powerful than we imagined.
 
What is your story?
 
How is hurt wrecking the peace in your home?
 
Choosing forgiveness is hard especially when it is on the corridors of adultery, painful words by your spouse, neglect or otherwise. 
 
May be your hubby’s anger is becoming uncontrollable or his entanglement with sin or his life with gaming and gambling and it hurts you deeply.
 
Or may be it’s your past or your entanglements that is hurting you?
 
Related Articles: When Going Forward is Hard by Stephane Singletary
 
                              Help For The Woman Who Feels Entangled
 
Friend, you can’t help yourself without first choosing forgiveness. 
 
Not tidying up your unforgiveness, resentment and anger towards him and what hurts you in your marriage would drive more divide in your home and wreck your peace.
 
Friend, putting this in words isn’t easy for me as a wife to other wives. I hope you understand you are not alone with the hurt you are going through. 
 
The best we can do for other wives is to pray along with them and for their homes. 
 
We are able to give comfort to others because we at some time in our lives have also received comfort… The Lord comforts our hearts.
 
Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
2 Corinthians 1:4
 
If you are going through domestic violence, then you have to do something about it immediately before it is too late! Gal you’ve got to speak up and seek help!
 
Related Article: Domestic Violence: The Society, The Church and You
 
Frankly, you and I have watched many sisters
battle with their own personal hurt. Things may not look so good from where you
are now but prayers are a great way to start the journey towards healing.
 
7 Scriptures To Comfort Your Aching Heart
 

Psalm 147:3     He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.     

 

 Isaiah 61:1  The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me; because the Lord hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound;

 

Isaiah 51: 12   I, even I, am he that comforteth you: who art thou, that thou shouldest be afraid of a man that shall
die, and of the son of man which shall be made as grass;

 

Psalm 23:4  Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me;
thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

 

Psalm 119: 50  This is my comfort in my affliction: for thy word hath quickened me.

 

Roman 15:4   For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.

 
*We are reminded in Isaiah 43:2 that the Lord is there with us when we are going through these situations.   But here are a few healing steps to help you…
  5 Healing Steps You can take
     1.   What is the source of your hurt? Identify what the problem is. It should not come as a surprise sometimes we are angry or hurt for the wrong reasons. Our perceptions may be misleading.
 

     2.   Don’t take little conversations for granted. Learn from your small and quiet conversations. Conversations are a way to help you know your spouse better and help you express your feelings gently .     Make sure you understand what he is saying and you are not interpreting something else. It may save you from future heart aches. 

    A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up
anger.    Proverbs 15:1
    Choose your words carefully no matter how hard it is. When you both angry your discussion could go out of hand.
 
     3.   Speak to a godly and wise girl friend you trust. Sisters should cover each other’s back. Yup! One of such blessings from sisterhood friendships is our authenticity- Speaking the truth to a friend even when it
hurts.
 
      4.   Tackle loneliness and emptiness. If you feel lonely in your marriage, don’t shut yourself out.
 
     Related article: 5 Ways To Overcome Emptiness In Marriage
 
    5.   
Prayers
and fellowship; There are a few prayers below to
help you below. I pray you find healing, peace and testimony in the midst of
what you are going through. 

 7 Prayers for the Wife Who Feels Hurt

    1.   Dear Lord, my soul is weary and tired. I have been carrying this burden for too long. I lay it down at your feet. It is too much of a weight to bear. Father, I lay it all down.  Lord, you formed me, you know my
frame, my thoughts my weakness and you know every bit of my story, my fears, my past and my worries. Dear Jesus, my heart feels like it is dashed in many pieces, right now… Words may not describe how hurt I am or how I feel. But I am in desperate need for you, Jesus, make me whole again.
 

    2.   Help me to focus on you. Help my gaze to keep steady on you. The chaos of life, the disappointments, all the hurtful words and those hard days, heal my heart Lord. Walk this road with me and help me through this. Give me the grace, the strength to forgive whoever has offended me and be brave to confront whatever I need to.    3. Lord take away every hardness in my heart. Remove that stony heart and give me a heart of flesh. Give me wisdom dear Lord to handle situations, wisdom to know what to say, how and when to say it. Give me a kind, loving and forgiving heart. (Ezekiel 36:26)

 
    4.   Lord my husband’s heart is in your hand. I pray for his choices, his decisions and his temperament. Meet him in all areas where he needs you. Make him the man after your heart and make him a godly man who cares for his home, his family, and for me his wife. Turn his heart in my favor. (Proverbs 21:1)
 
     5.   Father, breathe your peace over my life, my home, my all. Settle me on every side. Over power and over turn all the lies of the enemy. Let the handwriting of pain, hurt and bitterness over my marriage, my home, my life be blotted out by the blood of Jesus. Every crack in my marriage, home and life be sealed up right now by the Blood of Jesus. Let your mercy triumph over all accusations of the enemy in Jesus name. (Colossians 2:14)
 
    6.   Nothing else matters than to remain in your presence. Quiet my heart, Lord Jesus. Mold me, build me and let me grow in your presence to be a better person for you Lord, for my family and for the saints. Bring forth a testimony from this situation and make my story be a source of encouragement to those around in Jesus name. (Isaiah 64:8)
 
    7.   Jesus, I thank you for the restoration you are giving me. I thank you for the victory in the name of Jesus. I am grateful for everything and everyone you have placed in my life. In you, I have
victory over all.
 
     I strongly recommend you read: 7 Prayers For The Hurting Spouse

 Lastly, we are committed to helping each other in this community and that’s our goal. 

 
Feel free to share your story … even if it is anonymously done, we understand. Let your words gracefully encourage other women who are also hurting.
 
By His Great Grace,
Ifeoma Samuel.

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    • by: Gg
    • 4 years ago

    Beautiful words to read daily I will do that as I am going through a lot in my marriage right now !! Thank you lord for always being here for me

  • Tons of good information and scriptures here, Ifeoma. None of us should ever be lacking again in what to do or say in this situation. We all have either been that hurting wife or have friends who are.

  • This is wonderful for any hurting wife. Some of the verses and prayers brought tears to my eyes, sometimes the hurt is there much longer than you realize, and sometimes you need to continually lay that baggage down at the cross. Thank you <3

  • What a powerful story and insight God showed you to help your friend. Thank you for linking this post up to the #RaRaLinkup!

  • Wow, this is like going to counselling! So good for hurting wives. I love the scriptures and your steps, especially #2, about giving importance even to small conversations. Blessings, sister! May the Lord use and increase your ministry.

    • I was thinking the same thing Betsy. It is like going to counseling. Ifeoma does a awesome job providing resources and giving scripture to pray with for the wounded and brokenhearted.

  • I would agree to those verses. It's nice to have partner whose there to support you and at the same time knows God as well and putting Him at the center of the relationship.

    Those verses are perfect for the broken heart!

  • So grateful you address this topic, Ifeoma! So glad for the story you shared, praise God! If I might add- sometimes (I know from experience) as wives we hurt from circumstances our husbands can't control. For instance, when a husband is really ill for awhile, a wife can be hurting for him and hurting as she copes with seeing him to unwell and doing so much to help out. So grateful these Scriptures and topics apply over all!!

  • Your husband surely has the spiritual gift of "wisdom." He was led by God to have you tell her to write those words. It is difficult to trust someone once you have been betrayed, but we expect God to trust us don't we??? Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

  • Your thoughts and these prayers are so good!

  • Thank you for your wise words, scriptures, prayers and resources. It is too easy to give up on a marriage. Blessings!

  • Ifeoma, this is a resource sure to help many. May God use it to help many wives work through their hurt. Blessings!

  • Wow, this is full of so much Biblical encouragement! Forgiveness is not easy, especially when we bring a lot of hurt into the marriage from our past. These words you wrote stood out for me: "We are able to give comfort to others because we at some time in our lives have also received comfort…" So true! Thank you for sharing at Let Us Grow!

  • Ifeoma, there is such a wealth of resources in this post. From scripture, to strategy, to prayers. Thank you for all of this hope! I'm so thankful you shared this at Moments of Hope!
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

  • Thank you for these prayers and scriptures and such good advice. Sometimes it's hard not to be angry and hold things against our spouses, but we know that anger doesn't really solve anything. May God be with us all as we put Him first and work together in our marriages to make them strong. Blessings to you, Ifeoma! Thanks for sharing at #LMMLinkup!

    • by: Jen
    • 8 years ago

    Ifeoma, I just had to click through over at Grace and Truth since I write about marriage from time to time, too, and because I've been the wounded wife before. You did such a great job connecting wives to excellent scripture and important resources during what can be an extremely difficult time. I'm sure many will benfit!:)
    Jen @ Being Confident of This

  • Ifeoma, sharing this with my online prayer group. Thank you! xo

  • What a great reminder that grace can bring us peace, and two wrongs definitely don't make a right. Thank you for sharing your friend's strength with us on #shinebloghop

  • This message is filled with Biblical ideas to comfort the wounded woman. I wish every hurting marriage could be saved but it takes two repented sinners to believe God's promises. It amazes me how these times of anguish can open us up to a relationship with Father God like never before.

  • What a comprehensive look at a very important topic. Thanks, Ifeoma, for taking it on!

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