4 Reasons to Quit Complaining (4 Things to Do Instead)

4 Reasons to Quit Complaining (4 Things to Do Instead)

She listened quietly on the other side of the phone all the while I was fussing. As the conversation drew to an end, my aunt said ‘Do you remember the guy with the one talent?’ Gently reminded me of this scripture in Matthew 25:15…Like cool water pouring over on a hot day, my soul was refreshed.I don’t want to nag like that guy or be like him. By the end of our talk I learnt some valuable life lessons.

Maybe you have been complaining and whining a lot lately, then this will refresh your heart. 

*It is a long read and you might want to bookmark this page*

Bible Reading:  Matthew 25: 14-30 (click to read online)

Familiar chapter, right?
What you don’t know is, many times, we run around like this servant with one talent.
Let me explain….
What really is your “gift”? Like the servant in the parable, the Lord has deposited gifts in our lives. And because we don’t recognize it we complain.See it this way…

 Your one gift may be your not-so-great job with little pay, so we complain.
 Your one gift could be your small house, so you nag about it.
 Your one gift could be your tiny-barely-moving car, so you keep grumbling about that
 Your one gift could be where you live, in a rugged and rough area in town, so you
criticize it.
 Your one gift could be___________
But do you see something good about it?
Again like the one-talent servant in the Bible, are you too busy comparing your gifts to those around you?
When things don’t swing your way, it is easy to think your gifts are not useful or they are not good enough, or you think it doesn’t match up to those around you.e.t.c. Point is, when you go around with this attitude you become a lot like the servant.
The servant clearly went about his dissatisfaction the wrong way!
     1.  He was angry: Complaining gets you angry. This servant in the story wanted more clearly because others had received more. Well as humans…. that is understandable.
Here is something to think about….
Do you have the capacity to handle more, right now?
Have you gained enough wits and prowess?
God doesn’t bestow on us more than we can handle. He knows our abilities and allows us grow and get there.
     2.  He buried his gift: Complaining doesn’t let you see beyond what you think is wrong. You only see faults and nothing else. He couldn’t see past the fact that it was only one gift. Rather than work on his gift, he chose to bury it instead.
Call to Action: Unearth your buried gifts now and put them to good use
Jealousy and anger are twin negatives that buries your gifts
     3.  He wasted timeOne reason, I love David is his attitude towards life. Here was a man chased to all corners of the country yet he didn’t complain. He sought for ways to get
the issue resolved. 
     As hard as it is, we should not lie around creating excuses for ourselves. Complaining not only steals time from you, it wastes your productive energy.
When you complain you only hear yourself and no one else.
Call to action: Quit complaints and comparisons; get productive with your time and energy.
 People who achieve great things have few complaints except they wish they could do more.
     4.  He was un-teachable: I closely read through this scripture again and I ask myself…
 While everyone else was working, what was this guy doing? Yikes!!
Why didn’t he learn how to multiply his one talent?
You won’t have the guy with five talents around and be obstinate enough not to learn how he increased.
Call to Action: Learn from the people who are ahead of you in business, ministry, vocation etc. you will never regret it!
That’s what this servant didn’t know. You need to use this one stuff, get better and then you have more coming your way. It is time to quit complaining and I invite you to switch over to these four instead.

4 Things to do instead of complaining

1. Learn to Be Grateful: Be thankful for where you are on your sphere of your life. Be thankful for who He has made you to be (2 Corinthians 4:15).
2. Learn to Be Faithful: God is searching for the faithful to commit great things into their hands. Whatever you are doing do it with all your heart (Ecclesiastes 9:10).
3. Learn to Be Diligent: You will bear rule and increase when you get diligent (Proverbs 12:24).
4. Learn to Learn: The core basics of being on top is humility. It takes humility to admit you don’t know and to learn what you don’t know (1 Thessalonians 4:11). It takes wisdom to admit you don’t know and humility to learn what you don’t know

By His Great Grace,
Ifeoma Samuel

  • Oooh, Ifeoma, love the thought about how you can only hear yourself when you're complaining. Well, isn't that just truth?! I'll have to remember that next time I go to complain. (And, oftentimes, we (I) tend to complain internally and not verbally…which can keep us from hearing God…and I'd much hear the voice of God than the voice of my complaints.) Thanks for sharing this, Ifeoma. Always love connecting with you. ((HUG))

  • Gratitude is the key to so much of life, isn't it?! A needed reminder today!!

  • Some gifts seem so small, even giving hugs to children and a smile here and there is a gift. May we always be learning and open to understand what is next and to act upon it. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

  • AS I read I kept thinking, oh I need to find a pencil this is rich and full of wisdom Great post

  • Be grateful, be faithful, be diligent and be teachable. Great advice! Thanks Ifeoma!

  • Be grateful, be faithful, be diligent and be teachable. Great advice! Thanks Ifeoma!

  • Thanks so much for sharing! Good encouragement 🙂

  • Ifeoma,
    "Whatever you are doing; do it with your whole heart." Great words to live by. My talent may be different from someone elses. Rather than compare I need to focus on the talent God has given ME. In my work with Redeemer Christian Foundation, I am learning to be humble. Never too old to learn new things!! Great post…

  • Great, challenging post. I especially felt pierced by the questions you asked at the beginning – how the one gift we have may be the one that is the "least" in our lives. Very confronting, thank you. And thank you for linking up and my new link-up, Discipline. Complaining is definitely something that isn't glorifying God in with our minds and hearts.

  • Beautiful post and so timely for me….I have been grumbling about my one small talent all the while yearning for things beyond my reach. God bless you!

  • What a great reminder to be thankful for all of the blessings that I have, instead of comparing myself to others. I love your list of 4 things to do instead of complaining. Thank you for the reminder to stay faithful!

    • 8 years ago

    What a sober reminder! Thank you for sharing this encouragement on the Art of Home-Making Mondays! 🙂

  • Complaining won't get us anywhere. It's really wise to just do something about the situation rather than complain about it. Good read as always, my friend. 🙂

  • Ifeoma- one of my favorites you've written! I love how you break this down and bring out these points! So impactful. A little kick in the pants I needed : ) Thank you!

  • God's gifts are everywhere to be found if one simply changes their attitude. This is something the Lord is teaching me; daily.
    Thank you so much for this great post! 🙂

  • My neighbor at Three Word Wednesday wrote on a similar topic today. Remember Paul's words to Timothy "Fan into flame the gifts given you…" If your gift is smoldering, then fan it, blow on it and turn it into one huge fire!!! Neighbor #45 at Jennifer's today.

  • I have really tried to be more aware of my tendency to complain, but it is definitely a work in progress! I don't usually complain about the big things. It's all the little ones (road construction, the wind …) that I find myself complaining about! Thanks for helping us see so much more in the parable of the talents. BTW I'm visiting from "Sitting Among Friends" today. Blessings!

  • Came over from Works For Me Wednesday. Didn't really want to. No offense, you understand. But I am a major complainer. Have bookmarked for future Bible study. WILL be back.

  • Ouch! When I complain I only hear myself–that is SO true! I have no reason to complain because to 9/10ths of the world, I'm like a millionaire. That's a sobering thought.

  • Good advice! It is so easy to compare ourselves and our gifts with others instead of just focussing on what God wants us to do. Thanks for sharing!

  • Complaining does a great job bringing ourselves down and also bringing others down. But it's not always easy to stay away from!

    Great reminder to live a grateful life as a way to try and stay away from complaining.

  • Well stated reminder Ifeoma! As Christians, I'm not sure complaining and whining are fruits of the Spirit. When we keep our hearts and minds on Jesus instead of circumstances; there should be more gentleness & kindness and a spirit more like Christ. Something I strive to work on every day. I Hope you had a wonderful Easter. Have a blessed week my friend!

  • He was unteachable. So so true! I haven't noticed that before-you are so right. God can't use us if we aren't teachable.

    • 8 years ago

    While I agree that we gain nothing by complaining, I have to disagree with your comment in #3, that David never complained. He had an amazingly respectful attitude toward Crazy King Saul and his death threats, but the Psalms are full of his songs, many of them complaints against those who wrongfully threatened and abused him. What's different about David, however, is that he complained to God and allowed God to be his advocate, comfort, and strong deliverer. Perhaps this is the best way to complain–with a heart of honest trust in the God who can deliver us or give us grace to walk through our challenge. Hopping over from Proverbs 31 wife.

    • 8 years ago

    It's amazing to me how easy it is to complain, even though I have very little to complain about. The biggest reason not to complain is the Bible tells us not to! I constantly have to remind myself of this and catch myself complaining. I love your tips on what to do INSTEAD of complaining. I will remember these for sure! Thanks for sharing.

  • Some really great common sense, spiritually powerful, points on this passage!

  • Some terrific advice in this post! Complaining gets us nowhere though it often seems to be the first reaction when things don't go our way. Thank you for sharing!

  • I always like this story and wondered what my grandparents thought of it. My great grandparents didn't trust the market and saved their money in the house. There was a lot of distrust after the Great Depression. They might have thought the other two as risk takers and foolish.

    Then again I wonder what would have happened if he other two lost their money to the markets and the third servant still had his? I tell this story when I talk to people about their strengths because the third servant could have used the money to invest where he was strong. I love your call to action to learn from those ahead of you. It speaks personal growth and development to me. I recommend people invest 10% back into themselves because they are their best investment.

    Good Job.

  • I love that thankfulness and praise shuts out ALL room to complain! It's one or the other. I always remind myself about the verse DO NOT COMPLAIN! Not always easy, but thankful for forgiveness along the way

    • 8 years ago

    This was a blessing to read and a reminder to be gentle with ourselves, to be gentle with others who may not know their worth. We try so hard and sometimes we are trying for everything that is not within our grasp because in His mercy He is loving us by keeping us closer to Him.

    Such wisdom in this post, bookmarking is a must so we can come back and read it again.
    Thankful for you!
    Happy Easter.

  • Ifeoma, This was such an insightful and edifying post!! I never thought about complaining as it relates to the man with the one talent. This is so profound and so true!

    I was especially convicted by your statement, "What really is your “gift”? Like the servant in the parable, the Lord has deposited gifts in our lives. And because we don't recognize it we complain." and how you listed those things that could be our "one gift" that we complain away…

    It is always such a blessing to visit your blog.

    May the Lord bless you richly this Easter. 🙂

  • Hi Ifeoma … I'm a complainer at heart. The huge thing that's helped me break away from my whining is looking for gratitude, speaking gratitude, writing gratitude, praising God for all He's doing, the big and the small.

    Easter blessings to you, friend …

  • Ifeoma, powerful post! Unearth your buried gift and use it without complaining. Thank you dear friend! That's a lesson I must apply NOW. Hugs. Susan

  • It's always so helpful for me to be reminded to have a heart of gratitude. Happy Easter, Ifeoma. I'm thankful for you!

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