I remember sitting on the couch and watching the movie “Mean Girls”. I wondered if things could get that bad in the girlie-hood. How wrong I was; things could get much worse these days.

Recently, I watched my friend’s daughter become a hermit and totally withdrawn because her shy, sweet best friend had turned on her.

The need to belong to a group, the strong desire to fit in, pushed friends apart.

It is confirmation that hurts our authenticity. ” And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God”.  Romans 12:2

Are you being a genuine Christian?

Are you genuine as a mom?

Are you genuine in your relationships?

Every successful relationship is knitted in authenticity.

Come to think of it, we are more likely to share our hearts with friends who are real enough.
Unfortunately, people close to us can tell when we are not honest about ourselves.

Yes!!

It is a lie to put up an appearance.

It is pride to put up an appearance.

Not being authentic is denying who you really are.

Many cases of depression and loneliness are linked to the impossible wish to be perfect or to fit in with the ‘right crowd’.

Gal, we should not turn on each other just because we are trying to fit in the “popular group”.
What really is the issue?
‘The need to fit in’

We lose ourselves when we desperately want to belong.

We stop being real when we put up a facade.

When our lives start revolving around appearances, we drift away from reality.

It is this self-serving desire that allows us to crush people in our lives who love us.

This senseless craving makes us lose real connections and break hearts along our paths.

How can you be more authentic?

Understand your purpose; the woman who understands God’s place in her life doesn’t bother which group of women let her in. A woman who understands her purpose pursues fulfilment of her calling.
God has not called us
1.  To be like everyone else; the world needs your light, it doesn’t need more darkness.

2.  To fit in: We should give up trying to fit in because God has called you to be different.

3.  To be unreal: We make our lives a lie when we abandon who God has made us to be.

God has called us for His Unique Purpose in our lives.

Our uniqueness is buried in our authenticity.
You echo your purpose when you remain true to your calling. To be true is to be authentic, sincere and transparent.

Show Compassion: an authentic person is compassionate and empathic. She listens with genuine intent and seeks ways to relieve your burden.
Jesus showed compassion. He was genuine. He didn’t need to wear a long robe and sit in the courts.

An authentic person will draw more genuine people.

Relate, not distant: An authentic person can relate to your experiences. While she does not shield her own shortcomings, she places herself in your shoes in order to understand what you are going through.

An authentic person is not distant in her conversations.

Avoid lies: Many times you try to fit in; you spin lies. Regrettably, you will need more lies to keep you on the shoreline. You will become more sucked in.
Get away from the lies and everything to do with it because it will cost you more than you expect.  

Be honest about your feelings: Truthfully, I am learning to be more open about my feelings, especially when my opinion really matters.

People in our lives deserve more than our “plastic answers”. They deserve our best authentic selves.

Let’s be more true and less plastic.

Let’s be more authentic and shine in truth.

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