Breaking the Cycle of Divorce

I gazed long and hard through the window while sitting on my bed. The words hit me hard.  This book opened my eyes to struggles in the heart of a young Christian woman who desired her home to be restored. The reality of divorces and separation even in Christian homes dug deep in my heart.  No marriage is faultless, mine isn’t perfect either but there is a lot of room to grow, build and to improve. 
As I pondered on, I asked myself these questions;

Can we discontinue this cycle of divorce in our families as believers?

Is there hope for redeeming a failing marriage?

What role can I play in the church?

What role am I playing now to continually build my marriage?

Is it good enough and what more can we do together as a couple?

 Pieces of wisdom from “Choosing Him All over Again” I took with me

Prayer can break the cycle of Divorce. Juana’s firm and dogged approach allowed God to restore back her marriage. Intentionally, not giving in to enemy’s plans in the area of marriage is one of the secrets Juana shared in her book. Commit to growing your man, yourself and your home.

Marriage is a commitmentUsing Godly wisdom, from the author of marriage himself, God, will save our homes. There are many biblical secrets that can keep our Christian homes.

Recognize that there is an errorAs a mother, I will teach my children my own mistakes. I will also show them where I fell so they don’t get caught up in the same mess. We
should dedicate ourselves to honestly guide our children in the truth of God’s Word despite our own shortcomings.

 For someone reading this, I lay my pen down with these:
 There is hope.
              For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease. Job 14:7
 God heals the broken hearted
He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
God can restore any marriage on the verge of separation or divorce. God hates divorce
For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. Malachi 2:16
Divorce leave deep scars, break the cycle of dysfunctional and brokenness inherited from parents. And finally, in the words of Juana Mikels Page 56

 Broken marriages can leave Broken children who are left to pick-up the broken pieces”.

Have you read Juana Mikels book? Or do you have an experience of divine restoration in the area of marriage? 
Please leave it in the comments section. 
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Michelle Twin Mum January 12, 2015 - 4:34 pm

A really great book that is teaching me so much. Mich x

IFEOMA SAMUEL January 12, 2015 - 5:24 pm

I am glad you are reading it too. It is an amazing book. Thanks for stopping by Michelle.

Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom January 13, 2015 - 12:30 am

It sounds like a really helpful and informative book.

I am in my second marriage. I divorced my previous husband prior to becoming Christian… thankfully we didn't have children together. Marriage takes much effort and is most solid when founded on the principles of God's love for us and our love for Christ. I know now I have a powerful ally in my corner. When I have struggles, I can just lift them up in prayer to God.

Thank you for sharing.

God bless you.

IFEOMA SAMUEL January 13, 2015 - 7:28 am

I am glad you shared your story here. As believers now, there is a lot to learn about Godly marriage.
God will continue to be with you and your family.
God Bless you and your family richly in Jesus Name. Amen.
Thanks Jennifer for your sincerity.

Anonymous January 23, 2015 - 7:09 pm

The book makes no exceptions to the rule of "obeying your husband" even if he is an unbeliever. The issue of domestic violence in the home ( yes this is very prevalent in homes as is pornography addition ) and 'I believe this message of complete submission and obedience to all husbands in every situation without exception can be harmful if not dangerous to spouses and children. Marriage seems to be idolized at the expense of the safety of the believing spouse who often suffers abuse at the hands of an abusive husband. Please check out the blog understand how
the church often enables abusers with the message of "blanket" submission and obedience.

IFEOMA SAMUEL January 25, 2015 - 5:19 pm

Dear Anonymous, I took time to visit the site you posted and read up several articles there. I also took some time to reply this conversation because there are several people who will read this.

Firstly, Juana shares her experience as an unbeliever who meets Christ at the brink of her separation. She shares with her readers, her persistence in getting her marriage back on track now she has met Christ. Her husband did not receive Jesus until 5+ years after their marriage restoration. She still held on to her home through prayers and lots of patience.
Does this means it would work for every unbelieving spouse? God can handle the same issue in different ways. Our own job is to pray and believe. In addition, she had Godly mature Believers encouraging her through prayers and counselling.
It is a different issue altogether addressing marital issues of sisters married to unbelievers. It requires Godly Counsel, Prayers and lots of patience.
Remember, the bible states that a Godly spouse sanctifies the unbelieving partner.
1 Corinthians 7:14 .For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

Nevertheless, in a life threatening situation a different and maybe drastic approach is required.
God loves us and cares deeply about what we go through.

Maybe the church should buckle up in teaching Godly marriage but it is not advisable to marry outside the Christian fold.

God Bless and thanks for sharing this very important comment.


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