That embrace. The peaceful connection. As he held me close, he encouraged me to let all that pain out. A heartbreak. Pain inflicted from someone close. Leaving me helpless. The hurt and horror were threatening to overtake me.
After the death of a dear sister, broken family relationships and more, the year had taking it’s toll. Now this incident too made that list.
When life gets hard, our hearts want to get hard.
A natural, flesh response to pain.
With all that weight I bore, my husband asked me if I was ready to talk through the situation. He laid my phone aside. Quietening the outside world. That’s what my heart needed. A moment of solace to process the pain I felt.
Deep down I appreciate how he bears with me in a way that honors me and honors his witness.
No, my husband isn’t perfect, but I felt protected. As we talked through my responsibilities in this situation. And it came down to this – my divine responsibility as a wife and mother to our three children.
That is my first ministry.
I am the heart of my home and when my heart is divided by the pain of others’ circumstances, it’s right and just for my husband to center me, to remind me whose I am.
I am my husband’s, but more than that, I am His.
Every Wife is the Heart of Her Home.
My husband brought my heart where it needs to be. He surrounded me in the protection a Godly husband brings. A gentle plea to refocus, to reset. I’m so thankful for that protection today and always.
I loved that this verse in I Peter 3 was by itself and directed to husbands:
“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” I Peter 3:7 NKJV
We must do something with pain.
Some of us hurl it at those around us.
Others box it up and place it in an attic of our mind and wait until the mess is too big to clean up in one sitting.
Many spend a lifetime carrying it around like a student loan payment that won’t go away.
What do you do with your pain?
I do a little bit of everything with pain. I often hurl it around in anger when I really need to clean out the attic. I think I drop the remnants of a broken relationship in the giveaway pile at the cross and then find more pain.
But I am learning to call in my husband as my protector.
I admit I’m not capable of handling all of my mess alone. We’re not designed to handle our messes alone. We’re wired to talk and walk together through pain.
For every wife who is heart broken, and suffering though pain, I have learnt to take my brokenness to the cross and let Jesus heal it. I am letting Jesus guide my steps.
One of my favorite verses is..
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
This verse is instruction for Christian living. Christ calls us to bear with each other in love even in marriage.
If you go back to those marriage vows, that’s for better or for worse, richer or poor and in sickness and in health.
When one of us suffers, the other protects. It’s a beautiful balance.
May each of you be blessed in your marriages in Jesus name. Amen