5 Ways to Have an Authentic Life

I remember sitting on the couch and watching the movie, “mean girls”. I
wondered if things could get that bad in the girlie-hood.How wrong I was, things could get pretty worse
these days.Recently, I watched my friend’s daughter become a hermit and totally withdrawn because her shy sweet best friend had turned on her.The need to belong to an in-group, the need to
desperately fit in drew friends apart.

 

It
is conformation that hurts our
authenticity.
 
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove
what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.  Romans
12:2
Are you being a genuine Christian?
Are you genuine as a mom?
Are you genuine in your relationships?
 
Every
successful relationship
 
 is knitted in authenticity.
 
Come to think of it, we are more likely to share our hearts with friends who are real enough.
Unfortunately, people who are close to us know when we radiate lies about ourselves.
Yes!!
 
It is a lie to put up an appearance.
 
It is pride to put up an appearance.
 
Not being authentic is denying who you really are.
Many depressions and loneliness are closely tied with the impossible desire of being perfect or to fit in to the ‘right crowd’.
Gal, we should not turn on each other just because we are trying to fit in the “popular group”.
What really is the issue?
 
‘The need to fit-in’
We lose ourselves when we desperately want to belong.
We stop being real when we put up a facade.
When our lives start revolving around appearances we drift away from reality.
It is this self serving desire that allow us crush people in our lives who love us.
This senseless craving makes us lose real connections and break hearts along our paths.
How can you be more authentic?
 
Understand your purpose; the woman who understands God’s place in her life doesn’t bother which group of women let her in. A woman who understands her purpose pursues fulfilment of her calling.
God has not called us
1.  To be like everyone else; the world needs your light, it doesn’t need more darkness.
2.  To fit in: We should give up trying to fit in because God has called you to be different.
3.  To be unreal: We make our lives a lie when we abandon who God has made us to be.
God has called us for His Unique Purpose in our lives
Our uniqueness is buried in our authenticity.
You echo your purpose when you remain true to your calling. To be true is to be authentic, sincere and transparent.
 
Show Compassion: an authentic person is compassionate and empathic. She listens with genuine intent and seeks ways to relieve your burden.
Jesus showed compassion. He was genuine. He didn’t need to wear a long robe and sit in the courts.
 
An authentic person will draw more genuine people
 
Relate not distant: An authentic person can relate with your experiences. While she does not shield her own short comings she places herself in your shoes in order to understand what you are going through.
 
An authentic person is not distant in her conversations
 
Avoid lies: Many times you try to fit in you spun lies. Regrettably you will need more lies to keep you on the shore line. You will become more sucked in.
Get away from the lies and everything to do with it because it will cost you more than you expect.   
 
Be honest about your feelings: Truthfully, I am learning to be more open about my feelings especially when my opinion really matters.
People in our lives deserve more than our “plastic answers”. They deserve our best authentic selves.
Let’s be more true and less plastic
Let’s be more authentic and shine in truth.

 

PS: This Article was first published on Rosilind Jukic’s Blog.
For
the past two weeks, I have been sharing different articles published on other
friend’s blogs. Since my return home to Nigeria, settling in and reconnecting
have eaten into regular writing schedule.
I
am grateful for all my friends who have hosted me on their blogs and I look
forward to welcoming them here too.
If
you missed my recently published guest posts, you can visit the links below.
Feel free to share and leave a comment too
 
By His Great Grace,
Ifeoma
Samuel 
 
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13 thoughts on “5 Ways to Have an Authentic Life”

  1. What a thought provoking post Ifeoma! Number 1 is where it all starts! Know your purpose. God created each one of us for a specific purpose and He has us right where He wants us to accomplish His will. Thank you for sharing my friend and may God bless you and yours as you seek to live for Him each day!. Have a wonderful week!

  2. I agree with Horace. What a thought-provoking post that challenges me to remember who I am trying to please … people or God. Thank you, friend, for sharing your words at #IntentionalTuesday. : )

  3. Excellent point about "conformation" hurting our "authenticity." when we try to "fit in" we lose something of who we really are. Thought provoking reality that should make us question our desire to "go along" thanks!

  4. I am currently reading a book today entitled "prototype". This book is about our identity in Christ. Authenticity for me is the synonym of knowing who we are as God's children, by simply knowing that, we can live a life of authenticity. 🙂

  5. You're a wonderful writer, Ifeoma! This line really "cut to the chase" for me: "It is conformation that hurts our authenticity."
    Thank you for sharing this at Coffee & Conversation… I hope your transition back home smooths out for you…
    {{hugs}}

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