When Going Forward is Very Hard! by Stephane

For a long time, I had been battling
with condemnation. As a young believer, I had a lot of baggage.

I mean a whole lot!
My past holds tons of regretful
actions. Every time I reminisce on what my past looked like, I find myself desperate,
worthless and seemingly helpless.

could God use a woman like me?
I remember vividly that fateful day
when I was sitting at my dining room table. The Holy Spirit whispered to me to
stand up and walk backwards.
I stood up and I began to walk backwards.
Tripping over a table leg, I fell on
one of the chairs, knocking my shin on the table leg and ended up with a
That day Lord stepped into my torn
life, my story changed.

The Lord stepped into my broken pieces, and mended my heart.
He taught me what it really means to
look back.
Every time we look back
we walk backwards
His mercies had freed me from the
condemnation and gave me new life, a new path and new strength to keep pressing
toward the high calling of Jesus Christ in my life.
He showed me that if all I ever do is look backwards I will
never be able to walk right.
When you walk backwards you will fall,
When you walk backwards you will
When you walk backwards you will end
up hurting yourself because you can’t see the obstacles behind you.
When we walk forward, we can walk
right, and He is able to prepare us for what lies ahead. 
If all we ever do is
look back, we will miss what lies ahead.
When you look back you miss out on what lies ahead.
I found deep strength from one of my
favorite verses Philippians 3:13-14.
Brothers, I
do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do; forgetting what
lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the
goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14 ESV
May be your past is as shameful as
May be you are too ashamed to let
others into your past.
May you are tired of bearing the
weight of your past.
Gal, I have been there!  
There are other moments, may be in our
youth, our jobs or our energies we remember the good times and wish things
would be the same.
Good or Bad, looking back is not what
God wants for us.
He wants us to go forward.
He wants us to look ahead in hopeful
anticipation of the great things He has prepared for us.
you remember in when the Israelites remembered Egypt and spoke so fondly of it?
sat by the meat pots and ate bread to the full” (Exodus 16:3
They forgot their oppression and
They forgot their cries for help.
Here they were in Exodus 5 complaining
about the amount of work and tasks laid on them.
In Exodus 2:24, the Lord heard their groaning.
Unbelievably in Exodus 16, they remember
their life in Egypt as a paradise!
Isn’t that just like us?
We forget is the people we actually
were and due to present circumstances we don’t grasp the mercies God had showed
Yes friend, every time we dwell on our
 past we fail to see God’s compassion.
If we continue to dwell on our past we
may lose what goodness the Lord has laid for our future.

don’t know about you, but who I was back then is not someone I ever want to be
I was tormented by the memories of my
behaviors, and by my sins when I realized how deprived I really was. I was a
sinner, in need of a Savior.

God brought us out of that life to bring us into something
But that is not always easy to see
when our circumstance seems so difficult, so hard, and so impossible.
I want to share three
things That helped through those rough days
♥ Don’t allow the memories of your
past turn your heart away from the blessings God has for your today and
♥ Let your past go.
♥ Allow God take what you were and
make you into something much better.

When I look back on my life now, all
I see is the powerful grace of my God who was able to take this wretched,
sinful woman and use her for His glory over and over again.
encourage sister, woman to woman, just keep pressing forward.
Every time that reminder of sin comes
creeping into your heart and into your mind, lay it down, and let God give you
the strength to be who He has called you to be today.
If we keep looking back, we will miss
what lies ahead.
Press forward and keep moving, sister.
Yesterday is gone.
You have been forgiven, and His mercy
is new for you again, today. You have to wake up, and do what Paul tells you to
do, forget what is behind and keep pressing toward that prize of Jesus Christ.

Don’t keep looking back. 
God has
something much greater for you just ahead. Amen!

About the Author
Stephane Singletary gently leads “The Upper Room” Women’s Ministry where writes and teaches women to love Christ.  If you live around Clayton, North Carolina, US, you are more than welcome to join us. Simply send an email to stephis545@gmail.com
She is also the author of “Winning Him Without A Word: Learning to Live and Love an Unbelieving Husband”. 
You can find her sharing God’s words @ Proverbs31:10-His Woman

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30 thoughts on “When Going Forward is Very Hard! by Stephane”

  1. Hi Ifeoma and Stephane! I am a total 'backwards looker', and it's never a good thing. So many hard times and mistakes, yikes.
    I have to keep reminding myself that if I have been forgiven, it's forever. No use looking back on what has been. That's over. Time to look ahead to what God has planned for His forgiven child. That's where the action is!

    Nice to meet you Stephane!

    • Dear Ceil, it is always peaceful reading your thoughts.

      Yes, you are on point here…to keep reminding ourselves that our sins are forgiven is important.
      Amen forward bound!
      Thank you for your sweet and refreshing words.
      Many blessings to you

  2. Hi Ifeoma and Stephane – Thanks for sharing here at Tell me a Story. I liked your illustration the Lord gave you about walking backwards. Yes, the past is past and we must walk forward lest we trip over those chairs or other things behind us. Jesus has forgiven and forgotten, and if you remind him of your past, He will say "What past?"

    • Hello Aunt Hazel, how are you?
      I am laughing…imagine us weeping over things God has no record of "What Past".
      Thank you for joining the table as usual and blessing our hearts with your words of wisdom Aunt Hazel.
      Many Blessings to you.

  3. So true, Stephane! I'm glad that you discovered that God has made you into a new creature–one that is redeemed by His blood. Who could be ashamed of that identity? And I'm also glad you were brave enough to share your struggle with all of us. I think it's something many of us face from time to time–especially since Satan loves to add to our sense of shame! But your truths help to bring clarity to this confusion we sometimes feel.

    And thanks to Ifeoma for highlighting your words for us today–such a powerful post!

    • Hi Beth, grateful to have you over here.
      I also appreciate Stephane's testimony. It is a personal struggle for many of us to let go of the past and keep pressing on.
      I appreciate your visit and comment too.
      Loads of Blessings to you Beth

  4. Thank you all to the wonderful comments and encouragement! May God bless each and every one of you. May we also remember to walk forwards daily, not looking over our shoulders, or trying to walk backwards. But always walking towards His grace. Amen. God bless you sisters.

  5. Such a powerful testimony, Stephane. It is pretty incredible (ok, ridiculous) how Satan tries to convince us daily that we are unworthy or that our past disqualifies us from ministry.

    WHAT. A. LIE!

    Thanks for sharing such solid truth here! Appreciate it.

  6. hi stephane, i'm your next door neighbor at FMF. i love those vss. from philippians 3:14-15 along with romans 8:1-4. plastering romans 8:1 across my brain is so helpful! no condemnation if i am in Christ! wow! so encouraging isn't it?

  7. These words are so honest and truly inspiring. You're right: one does not to do well to dwell in the past. We must learn to look forward and learn from our mistakes; it's what makes us stronger, after all.

    It was lovely to see you on #SHINEbloghop this week. Thanks for sharing this with us 🙂 Have a great weekend!

  8. I like your description of the dangers of dwelling in the past. It's so true that looking backwards and walking backwards can prevent us from moving forward into all that God has for us. Great reminder.

  9. A beautiful reminder about our past being in the past. I'm so thankful for a God who has washed my past away and remembers it no more. Thank you for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

  10. I am so grateful our past is forgiven. I have often been amazed when listening to testimonies, how those mistakes became the very places of strength bringing glory to God. Thank you for sharing today!

  11. Stephane,
    Thank you for sharing your story…so true that if we walk backwards we are only doomed to fall. Claiming the truth of Romans 8:1 that therefore there is now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. This had to become my mantra for awhile until the truth of its message really sunk in. God does forgive our path and wants us to keep walking forward toward Him.

    • Confession and Believe are closely related. The more we speak these scriptures into our lives the more our faith builds up and we break free from the bondage the past attempts to hold on us.
      Thank you for visiting, Bev.
      I appreciate it.

      Many Blessings to you

  12. Thank you Stephane (and Ifeoma for hosting!). I really need to write that Scripture down and put it onto my fridge. Too often I turn back and then fail to see the blessings and opportunities right before me. Thank you for your encouragement and choosing to share your story.

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