There is Still Something for Tamar!

Abused, Raped, beauty and restoration

I have a friend whose story is similar to Tamar! She had cried and soiled her pillows with tears. As she narrated her story, I cried and cried some more. 

But something broke my heart, she had given up
May be you are in those shoes or know someone going through something as horrible
as this. Her story touches the heart of the today’s woman because she very much lives with us.
Too ashamed to speak up, she is withdrawn, desolate and still wears her ashes, a symbol of her pain.
I am not going to dwell on his actions, not today but I desire that she in whatever skin, place and state find hope from Jesus.
Bible Study: 2 Samuel 13 (click scripture to read online)
Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but,
being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her.   2
Samuel 13:14
Her attacker in a few minutes, his love quickly turned to hatred.
His hatred drove him to kick her out.
“Lock the doors behind her”, he ordered.
He had satisfied his lust on her.
Poor Tamar!
she had a garment of divers colours upon her: for with such robes were the
king’s daughters that were virgins apparelled. Then his servant brought her
out, and bolted the door after her
.    2 Samuel 13:18
Here is the daughter of a king, treated worse than a prostitute.
Her adorning was not respected.
Her beautifully colored, richly decorated, flowing royalty dress was now
an object of ridicule.
Her position was not to be.
The symbol of her pride was snatched away not by her will and
worse of all by someone she had trusted, cared for and respected, her own
And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours
that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying.And
Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but
hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So
Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house
. 2 Samuel 13:19-20
A pain she never recovered from.
A stolen destiny, she lived the rest her life in misery and desolation.
Thereafter, her story ended!Nothing was ever spoken about the young woman.

Does it have to end this way?
Is Tamar story yours?
Is there anything good that can come from Tamar?
I don’t claim to understand you, but I know someone who can make a beautiful ending from this story.
I know someone who can rewrite the end of this story.
I know someone who can make something beautiful from of a broken life.
He can make pretty flowers grow on desolate and abandoned grounds.
If this is somewhat in your life story, here is what you should remember....
There is a beauty for every ash
There is a glory for every shame
There is a testimony in every test
There is victory in every in trial
There is hope in the mire

There is restoration in loss

There are more prettier princesses’ clothing for you

You are the daughter of the King. What you went through can never change that.
You loved of the Lord, this situation notwithstanding.
You are God’s priceless jewel.
You have a future.
You not hopeless.
There is still something good in life for every Tamar.
Not because I think so, but God says so.
His Word is there to prove it.
If He can restore Rahab and plug her into the lineage of Jesus, then God can do anything to restore you.

Don’t make Tamar’s end yours!
Here is what the Lord Jesus has in mind
To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes,
the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified. Isaiah 61:3
For your shame ye
shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion:
therefore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be
unto them. Isaiah 61:7
There is a beauty for your ashes
There is glory for your shame
There is joy for your weeping
There is a garment of praise for your shredded clothing.
A Prayer for You:
Lord I pray for the woman going through this situation, you understand her
struggle, Lord you know her pain. Words may not describe her feelings or tell
her tales but Father I pray that you grant her story a beautiful ending. I pray she be restored in more ways than she ever expected. Grant that she finds hope
and courage to go on and grasp a joy-filled life, courage and laughter in Jesus name. 
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Comment Prompt: Have you been there? What words of encouragement
can you share for a woman struggling with an abusive past?
By His Great Grace,

Ifeoma Samuel

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40 thoughts on “There is Still Something for Tamar!”

  1. Yes, God redeems our stolen destinies, the wrongs done toward us. I am so grateful that He continues to lavish His love on us, despite the circumstances in our lives …

    Thanks for this thoughtful piece today, friend. I hope you are well!

  2. Hi Ifeoma! Oh my gosh, what a horrid situation for your friend. Yes, we do have sisters in the Lord who have gone through the same thing, and it does give hope. But your tender words and touch for her are the healing she needs.
    May God continue to mend her heart, using His children as His hands.

  3. I had my post on Tamar's story scheduled for this week! I love that story. I know her well, too. I pray your friend finds LIFE through the healing work of Jesus.

  4. Broken hearts, broken lives, but Jesus is the mender of hurts and pains. NO shame He says, because He tenderly loves the abused woman, in fact Jesus views them as Virgins in His sight. Take heart and realize that God himself will be the husband of the destitute woman. Look around and see what is in your hand. What talents you can use to make a living. What can you learn to do that you as of now don't know how to do? What classes can you take towards a new career? All is not lost. You are loved by God and good friends.
    Thank you for sharing your friend and Tamar's story with us here at Tell me a Story.

  5. Ifeoma- What an important, powerful post. What an important and beautiful prayer you wrote at the end. And these words are for all of us: "You are the daughter of the King. What you went through can never change that." Amen! Praise God for writing beautiful endings to our broken, sad stories. Thank you for writing this, friend. And may God continue to bring healing truth to your friend.

  6. What a blessing to be a daughter of the king, or a New Testament woman! I'm so very thankful that Jesus takes those ashes and makes something beautiful out of them as only He can!

  7. This is beautiful! The story of redemption for anyone is always such a grace-filled story and God is so good to choose that story for everyone if we chose Him. Thank you for this story of Tamar and your prayer at the end for all of us. Have a blessed week.

  8. Tamar's story is so tragic and every womans worst fear. I can't even imagine how I would recover but I love how you beautifully tell us that it doesn't need to be the end of the story. God is good to restore and heal His children.

  9. Ifeoma, it too breaks my heart when a forgiven, redeemed woman walks with head hung low because of shame. I pray the truth open her eyes to who she is in Christ and that she sees herself as God sees her.

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