What To Do When people Fail you!


As I walked with my young daughter during one winter weekend, our attention was drawn to some trees and shrubs that had been stripped bare of their leaves. 

The grasses had been browned by the winter leaving the entire hilly area dusty looking.
The sense of loneliness shrouded my feelings as we stared helplessly at the naked trees. Like the feeling of one being shred of their hopes and expectations.
Many disappointments I had faced in the time past were because of high expectations
I had of people.
Have you been failed by those whom you trusted?
Like the bare tree, do you feel lonely?
Are you devoid of hope and help?
As I walked down those paths with my daughter, I reminisced on those cold moments were my feelings had been hurt and the handwriting of failure and disappointment boldly written all around. I fix my thoughts on this scripture
It is better to trust in the Lord than to
put confidence in man. 
Psalm 118:8
Two critical lessons I learnt:
·         People can’t even help themselves, so relying on them is never advisable
·         Whatever help we receive from others is as a result of God nudging them or they want something in return for their kindness.
>>Here are four things to do when people fail you
1.   Learning Curve: Every experience we go through in life, difficult or easy, is an opportunity to learn
something new. What can you learn from a disappointing experience?
2.   Take the Path of Forgiveness. Choose
to forgive those who have disappointed you. Holding on to their faults keep us
in bondage too. It is freeing to forgive and move on.
Many Broken promises can lead to an unfulfilled life.
3.   Trust God. I love it when God knocks over our
leaning blocks.
Do you know why?
We can fully trust God and entirely depend on His help when we have no other alternatives. Our focus should be on Him alone who is able to help us.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own
understanding Proverbs 3:5
4.   Never forget God’s Promises. Remember at all times, God will never fail you.
The ways of the Lord are unknown,
His footsteps cannot be marked,
He leads us quietly in to His Way
Every time we try to figure out the path through which he takes us, we confirm our doubt in Him.
All we are to do is to trust Him who knows our paths who understands the way and takes us to the place where He has designed for us.
The Church may fail,

Family may not stand by you,

Friends may pack up and leave,

But, God will never leave us, nor forsake us.
P.S This post contains excerpts from the book “My 30 days Journey to a fulfilled life”.

Comment Prompt:

Have people failed you or are you going through such an experience now?
How have you handled the situation? Please lets talk…see you in the comments.
 By His Great Grace,
Ifeoma Samuel


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26 thoughts on “What To Do When people Fail you!”

  1. People will always fail us because they are…people. Humans, imperfect. Just like us. So yes I have been failed by people I look up to and depend on. But that's part of life. And I'm glad that I can now say it all worked for the best.

    Thanks for sharing this! 🙂

  2. When people fail me, I use the experience to remind me God will never fail me. Then I try to give them the same grace God gives me when I'm the one failing them. Thank you, Ifeoma, for an encouraging word. : )

  3. Yesterday afternoon, my husband mentioned that he had watered our trees, but it was too hot in the day to water the garden. I told him in a couple hours I would water the garden. Then I completely forgot until day when I noticed how burnt out and dry the garden was. It is still too hot and I failed to do as I said, but today is a new day – and I will water the garden for sure. Yes, I have had some important friends fail not only me but others. It is sad when those who fail – forget to get back up. Thanks for sharing with us here at "Tell me a Story." http://letmetelluastory.blogspot.com/

    • Hello Aunt Hazel, I am glad you shared your experience. But your reflection got me thinking.
      Those who fail forget to get back up.
      I think that is when it hurts the most.
      Thank you Aunt Hazel for joining the table as usual.
      Many Blessings to you

  4. We've all had disappointments through people failing us. I think that often happens because we have unspoken expectations that haven't been met because we didn't make our needs or desires known. Communication is key. I also believe that sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of people in authority or ministry leaders–for instance, I was upset at the lack of response I got from my pastor about some things I'd written and ideas I had, until someone asked me how many people were in my congregation and did I realize that a high percentage of those people email and call him every week? When we are able to step back, put things in perspective and realize that it's not all about us, we can eliminate a lot of that feeling of being failed or let down. Good, thought-provoking questions. Your neighbor at Coffee For Your Heart.

    • Hello Mary you have shared very important points here. Unrealistic expectations drive us to hang our hopes on people.
      Communication is definitely an issue not to be overlooked.
      I am grateful for your comment and for joining the conversation.
      Sweet blessings Mary.

  5. Ahhhh … yes. People fail us. Sometimes in little ways and sometimes in big ways. Funny how God works. I have been working on a post about just this and then last night my teen was having one of those experiences. God had prepared my heart to speak truth to my young guy.This was a beautiful post! I'm thankful I was a friend at #ThankfulThursdays! And thank you for your lovely comment on my blog this morning, as well!!!
    Blessings and smiles,

    • Hi Lori, so pleased this post spoke to your heart.I hope your son is doing better.
      It crushes our hearts when we are disappointed.
      Good thing is we can safely hide our hearts in God's arms.
      You are so welcome, Lori.
      Enjoy your weekend. And God bless you

  6. Ifeoma, What beautiful words. While we have people to fail us, we serve a wonderful Lord who does not. I'm so thankful I can depend on Him. Thank you for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

  7. My husband often will say that the joy-stealer of many relationships is "unmet expectations" ones that we had no business placing on the person in the first place.

    I tend to be someone who "expects" that people will treat me the way I treat them. In further thinking on this, I realized that people's love languages are different and what I "expect" them to do may not even occur to them because it is not how they are wired and that's ok.

    Great post Ifeoma!

    • Fantastic, your husband got this right. We have no business placing those expectations on people.
      May be the love languages are different. But I would go with your husband's advice.

      I enjoy reading your comments Karen.
      They are always helpful.

      Lots of love and blessings Karen.

  8. Life is about good and bad. Yes people do fail us, and I feel that at times we also fail others…. Life is a journey that has many ups and downs. The good part is learning from mistakes and not becoming bitter. I have come through so many disillusionments and I now praise God for them. he is the potter and we are the clay. Gods blessing to you.

    • That's wisdom.
      learning from our mistakes and not being bitter.
      Absolutely, I agree with this , Crystal.

      Many Blessings to you and thank you so much for visiting. I do appreciate it.

  9. I need to quit focusing on others have failed me and focus on the One who never fails us. It's so easy to let their failure get to me, though. I hope you'll bring another great post to Literacy Musing Mondays this coming week.

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