7 Prayers For The Hurting Spouse

One Sunday morning, as my husband and I prepared for church, we discussed as usual. Suddenly, our conversation took an unusual turn. Our hearty talk became one of unraveling emotions. 

Obi shared his feelings of hurt and disappointment he had been going through. He had struggled to deal with it alone but now he needs to share his burden.  As women we easily express our emotions. This does not come easily for most men.  Men are good at internalizing their hurt and mask their feelings.

 
Thoughtful questions for Wives:
 
Is your husband hiding his feelings of hurt?
 
Can he confide in you to share his emotions?
 
We all have our own way of responding or reacting to hurt and disappointment. As wives, we need to understand that sometimes our spouses become grumpy as a result of hurting experience they are going through. 
 
Don’t allow hurt go unnoticed or slip through the cracks.
 
It takes wisdom to discern deep emotions our spouses are going through.
 
The story of Abigail and David readily comes to mind.
 
Bible Reading:  (I Samuel 25:1-40)
 
David had been hurt by Nabal’s attitude towards him. He felt his kindness was taken for granted. Vengeance was the only thing David could think about. David’s hurt attracted varying forces of emotions and actions duly interrupted by Abigail’s wisdom.


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What can we learn from David’s Hurting experience?
 
Hurt breeds anger and resentment.
 
Hurt can lead to vengeance.
 
Hurt can lead to unforgiveness.
 
Hurting people make unhappy home.
 
Hurt can wreck a home.
 

 How can you help a hurting spouse?

 I love the wisdom of Abigail in saving the situation. What can we learn from her?
 
   1.   Listen: As my husband narrated his experience, he expressed his anger and managed to put his emotions into words. Just the way Abigail, listened to the young men that worked with her husband, we must learn the act of listening.
 
Rapt attention and being compassionate enough to understand their
emotions can relief a hurting spouse.
 
  2.  Be careful what you sayTruthfully, any word in response to their feelings may either inflict more wound or soothe their pain.
 
  3.  Calm whirling emotionsIn the midst of the conversation, find a safe spot to relief your spouse especiallywhen negative words begin to proceed.  A deeply hurt person easily succumbs to negativity and this is not helpful at all.
 
  4.  Discourage any immediate response to the situation: Like Abigail, we should seek the way
of peace and allow vengeance to be God’s business. A quick response based on anger may be an entirely foolish decision. Remember,
An emotional person is less likely to think things straight.
 
  5.  Choosing ForgivenessMany deep seated hurt results in unforgiveness and bitterness.  Abigail resulted in showing David reasons to allow God fight for him and letting go of unforgiveness. We should walk with our hurting spouses through this difficult path.
 
  6.  Prayer: The key to unlocking closed doors is the place of prayer. Hurt from the past
may rear up in your home and often this has nothing to do with you as a wife.
 
Unhealed and Wounded hearts may exhibit negative behaviors
towards those around them.
 
Related Article: 7 Prayers for the Hurting Wife What can Prayer do? Prayer goes a long way to help a hurting spouse.  God can reveal the secrets of the wounded heart.
It is only God that can heal a wounded heart.
 
He alone can bind up the brokenhearted. Join me and Lets say this prayer for hurting
spouses….
 
Prayer for peace in their hearts: Father, grant that my hurting husband may find peace. May your calming and refreshing water of life flow into his life in Jesus Name.
Great peace have they which love thy
law: and nothing shall offend them.Psalm 119:165
 
Prayer of comfort for the wounded in spirit: Holy Spirit, comfort my husband. You know the pain he is going through and understand how wounded his heart is. Let your comforting grace wrap him and flood him with your peace in Jesus Name.
A merry heart maketh a cheerful
countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. Proverbs 15:13
 
Prayer for forgiving a heart. Help him to forgive those who have offended him so that he in turn may receive forgiveness. Help him lord to let go and embrace you wholeheartedly. Help him to understand that you are the only one in his life who would not disappoint him.
So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should
be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.
2 Corinthians 2:7

Prayer of self control or temperance: Lord, grant him a temperate heart. Holy Spirit, help him to control his emotions in Jesus name.
He that is slow to anger is
better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a
city. Proverbs 16:32
 
Prayer for settling situations: Father, you are the way maker and the solution giver, in you we find solution to every problem. In Jesus name I declare that the source of my husband wounded heart be settled today.
 
The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as
be of a contrite spirit. Psalm 34:18
 
Prayer for Healing. Every wound needs healing. Lord Jesus, heal the broken hearted in Jesus Name.
 
He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 
 
Prayer of restoration and joy. Lord, restore overflowing joy into the life of my husband in Jesus Name.
But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in
thy salvation. Psalm 13:5 

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Comment Prompt:

Have you or your spouse experienced hurt? How did you walk through this experience? I love to hear your experiences see you in the comment section. 
Precious Blessings

40 thoughts on “7 Prayers For The Hurting Spouse”

  1. Good post my dear friend. A post of encouragement, instruction and inspiration. Let none of be like Jezebel berating our husbands and taking things into our own hands. God's got this covered. He loves our husbands more than we do and that's pretty big…. Blessings…. Your Chris

  2. Ifeoma, great wisdom shared from Abigail and David's story. I especially love the reminder to "listen" and "be careful what you say." Thank you, Ifeoma, for building up marriages with wisdom from God's Word. : )

  3. Hi, Ifeoma!
    Your post overflows with wisdom to apply to any marriage, whether just married or a life long marriage. Lessons from Abigail always inspire me. She is my favorite woman in the Old Testament. What a beauty and role model. Not reacting but choosing the loving response is a life long lesson for me!

    I just realized your posts are on Google+ and I added you. Now I won't miss a post! Your profile picture is model worthy, girl!!!!

    Hugs,
    Mary

    • Dear Mary , I am thrilled to hear that the post is helpful for any stage of marriage .

      You make new laugh *Model* for real!

      Thanks for adding me to your circle. I am honoured.

      Many Blessings to you Mary.

  4. What a lovely post, Ifeoma! Thank you so much for sharing, and you have a lovely blog. Thanks, as well, for your visit to my blog and for your kind comment. You are welcome anytime. God bless you.

  5. My husband likes me to be with him. He gives me permission to attend church and I give him permission to stay at home. (He has his own personal time with the Lord.) Then I changed churches, and began to experience a real move of the Holy Spirit in my own life. I desired to get involved. I decided to attend Sunday evening service, and I could tell me husband was not happy. I left and prayed as I went. I was gone two hours and got home before dark. The next day, I told him about the service and how God blessed me. He seemed better. Next evening service, I could tell he again was not liking me Leaving. The next day, I told him how the guest speaker, prophesied over the Pastors wife and said she will begin to use her gifts and she should be bold. Then is said – – – When a wife begins to be used of the Holy Spirit, her husband must be careful, because he often becomes jealous and it takes a strong Man of God to allow his wife to be used by God. – – – He sort of hummed – – and I knew he had received the message. Thank you for sharing your loved prayers to pray over your husband, with us here at Tell me a Story. I know your listening skills were healing wounds as well as your prayers.

    • Wow , Aunt Hazel I could feel your heart from your response. Thank God you had prayed about it.
      Wisdom is profitable to direct just as the Screen says. A Godly woman should be filled with wisdom and discretion.
      I pray God grants us divine wisdom to be home builders.
      Thank you Aunt Hazel. I love your wisdom of words you add to each post.

      Precious Blessings to you

  6. What great, scriptural and life-giving advice. It's so important for those who are hurting to be intentional. Thanks for helping with that. Your words are honest and encouraging. thank you!

  7. Always enjoy visiting your blog Ifeoma. I'm unmarried but this post is applicable in all relationships. I'm definitely learning the value of really listening and not lashing out in an immediate emotional reaction. Learning self-control is important as a Christian and as it is a fruit of the Holy Spirit it's not all up to me and my strength! I'm still responsible for my actions though.

    • I am very happy to hear from you. Thank you so much for your encouragement here. I really appreciate it.
      Thank God for all the help we can get from Him.
      Lovely week ahead MB.

  8. These are wonderful reminders and such powerful scriptures that you've shared here. It all begins with prayer. The Lord knows exactly what our hurting spouse needs, doesn't He?

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

  9. So good.
    My good husband and I were talking just yesterday about the fact that it seems as if one of us is down and the other is strong, and, in His mercy, God seems to work it that way between us. Thanks for your wise words today.

  10. This is just great Ifeoma, your clear and precise scripture based steps and prayers are just wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

  11. Yes Ifeoma, 21 years of marriage brings its share of 'strong discussions'. It's amazing how many of those happen on Sunday mornings! But with time we've become wise to the enemy's attempts to divide us. What God brings together, no man can divide! The key is prayer, and I LOVE the prayer tips you share here. Practical and powerful!

  12. This is definitely advice I can use. I need to be more aware of my husband's needs in this area.

    I'm looking forward to what you contribute to Literacy Musing Mondays this coming week.

  13. Ifeoma, this is a GREAT post, friend! I love your 7 steps, so wise. And also the prayers. Pinning this right now so I can see again later. Blessings on your marriage. May the Lord encourage both of you!

  14. I wish I had read this yesterday! ha. My husband was actually telling me how he felt in a gentle way, but as I listened, I got my own feelings hurt instead. Sometimes I need a do-over. Thankfully we worked it out. Prayer is always needed! Thanks, Ifeoma.

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