10 Parenting Mistakes You should never make! By Natalie

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For starters, I have been a
parent long enough to know every parent wants only the best for their
children. 

As parents, we do not want to
raise our children and set them up for failure. 
It is no surprise that even an irresponsible parent desires what is the
best for her child or at least good enough.
As a mother, I know the love we
feel for an unborn child before we meet them. 
The protection, attention and care we give to our unborn children proceeds
from the heart of nurture God has given us.
Behold, children are a
heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the
hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is
the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to
shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
  Psalms 127:3-5

Eventually
we get to meet our newborn and stare at their cute little faces, with love we
cleanup stinking nappies and dirty clothes.
A
Father loves his unborn child and ensures that he provides for his or her needs. You
can read more of being a loving Father Here
The best gift a Father can give his children is to love their
Mother unconditionally and eternally.
Sometimes we become so
consumed with our dreams for our kids that we forget that they perhaps have a
different dream for themselves.
Their destiny is a different path, we are part of
their journey but not in charge of their destiny.  

God’s purpose for their lives shall prevail.

For by grace you have
been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is
the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
Ephesians 2:8-9

Our mistakes
as parents often result from overprotection or trying to paint a picture perfect
home.
Here are 10
mistakes
we often make:
1.  
Your
child is not you

Allow them to be themselves.
2.  
Your
child can learn from your experiences but we must allow them to experience life
themselves
.
3.  
We
cannot protect them from everything.
  Even God allowed His son to go through shame,
embarrassment, humiliation, beating, being wrongfully accused. They need to go
through certain chapters of their lives to perfect their journey and gain
wisdom, knowledge and understanding.
4.  
Don’t bribe your way into your child’s heart. 
Sometimes we bribe our kids to do what is already required of them.  In doing this we bring more harm to
them.  This could make them expect people to reward them first for their kindness.
  
5.  
Don’t
let your kids pay for your mistakes.
  Don’t constantly remind them what mistakes
you made and expect that they avoid repeating them.
6.  
Don’t
compare your children to other children
.  Embrace diversity.  We cannot all be the same.  Love them for who they are.  After all, they are yours.
  
7.  
Don’t
remind or blame your children for their parent’s mistakes or failures.
  This is especially true for blended
families.  No matter what their parents
do, children will love them regardless. 
That is why the Bible says we must be like children.
In all things shewing
thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine [shewing] uncorruptness, gravity,
sincerity, Titus 2:7
8.    Love is not absence of
discipline. 
Do
not cover up their mistakes. Teach them that mistakes are part of life and part
of growing.  We learn from our mistakes and
develop character.   Your
children, like you are not perfect.
 
You can help them on this journey but you cannot live their lives for
them.  Lovingly teach them and discipline
them. 
9.   Do not provoke your children. 
Know that what you do, say and
even how you dress will affect your children. 
Speak to them in a respectable manner. 
Children learn from watching and observing us as parents. 
“Our lifestyle influences our children, whether positively or negatively.”
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them
up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4
10. You are not raising your children
for yourself

You are raising them to be part of this beautiful world.  God will hold you accountable one day for
your kids.  He has placed them in your
care to love them unconditionally.
Even when they may side step,
they will remember the teachings of their youth.  Remember the Bible says
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he
will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

No matter what, always love and pray for your
children.  Never give up on them. Keep
hoping and allow your hope to give birth to faith and faith that God will never
leave nor forsake them.
They
are the future of tomorrow.
And
like an old saying says…  They will
choose your old age home one day.
About the Author: 

Natalie Abrahams is a Ministry Wife, an International Speaker and a Life Coach. She is the author of “Get up and Go on”. To book Natalie Abrahams and to get a copy of  
her book, please send an email: virtuouswconnect@gmail.com
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30 thoughts on “10 Parenting Mistakes You should never make! By Natalie”

  1. What a great list! I need all of these reminders, occasionally, but # 10 really spoke to me today: "You are not raising your children for yourself. You are raising them to be part of this beautiful world." How easily we forget. This post is a keeper- to reread over and over. Thanks for sharing your gift here.

  2. Well said, Natalie. 🙂

    My oldest is getting ready to turn 20, and it's more and more evident every day that "we are not raising them for ourselves." We turn them loose in this world and let them make their mark. 🙂

    ~ Blessings ~

  3. Such good reminders. The one that stood out most to me was #10–we're not raising them for ourselves. Lord, let my children be a light in this world bringing glory to YOU! Thanks for sharing this! #RaRaLinkup

  4. Such great encouragement and words of wisdom here, Natalie. Parenting is one of the hardest and most wonderful duties God gives us. I'm so grateful He doesn't ask us to go it alone. It's a joy to point our kids back to Him, to have them see the path we have taken and learn from our wisdom and mistakes, while learning to find their own walk with Him. Thank you for sharing your heart! Blessed to be your neighbor at #testimonytuesday.

  5. Your ten mistakes NOT to make are great reminders for us as parents and grandparents to heed. When my children were growing up, I know I made several of these mistakes. I noted a mother at church provoking her 5 year old daughter with a very harsh criticism. The child tried to explain, and the mom cut her off. I knew the child was right, but I can only pray that this mom will learn to be gentle in leading and not pushing. Oh how we can see ourselves in others and thank God for His mercy. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

    • Hazel we're never too old to learn. I pray for that Mom. There is so much pain and humiliation in verbal abuse. It does so much damage to one's self esteem. I pray this girls Mom may find peace in her heart and may God bless her with a gentle spirit.

      Remain blessed

  6. I particularly like number one. It is so important to remember that our children are not us. We have our own fears and feelings and they are ours not our kids. It is not always easy to do, to distinguish between our fears and our desire to teach our children. It is a question worth asking. Great points. Thank you.

  7. Thanks for sharing Natalie's post on your blog also. I found it on the FMF link up…doubling up eh?! Glad you did! 🙂

    4. Don't bribe your way into your child's heart. Sometimes we bribe our kids to do what is already required of them. In doing this we bring more harm to them. This could make them expect people to reward them first for their kindness. <— that is the one that I need to work on. I think my mom and dad were such big gift givers/bribers…that I tend to do the same. God loves us without direct gifts…I need to do the same. jenn

    • Hi Jennifer… I don't think there is anything wrong in buying your kids gifts, but don't BRIBE them. Too much of anything is not good.
      That is right…… Happy parenting Jennifer.
      God bless you
      Regards
      Natalie

  8. What a great post and the 10 points are very important. I particularly like the one about letting our children experience life themselves. I find this one hard, as I don't want to see my children make mistakes or get hurt, but that is all part of the journey and helps them rely on God more than me. Thank you so much for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

    • Good day Terri
      The hardest experience for a Mom is seeing her kids hurt and disappointed without being able to ease their pain. Honestly, I have been battling with this myself, but have realized that trying to constantly protect them will only hurt them. They need to develop their own survival skills. Find comfort in the fact that they have been raised by the best Parents in the world.
      Bless you

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