It is time to B-R-E-A-T-H-E (Day 6)

This new series of devotionals is almost over. I enjoyed every bit of it, did you? Tomorrow we will wrap it up with something special. 
Meanwhile, do you need to find space in your life to rest, breathe and refuel?  you will enjoy all the amazing devotionals in this series.
BREATHE is an acronym but we will unwrap each word just like a treasure hunt.
Today’s Word is H and it stands for Heal From Your Past Wounds

HEAL
FROM YOUR PAST WOUNDS by Carla Gasser

We
have all heard the phrase, “Let go and let God,” but usually that is much
easier to say than actually do.  Letting
go of past hurts, sins, and struggles is often a daily task even for those of
us who have found freedom in Christ.
I
know it is definitely true in my own life and I often wonder why that is.  Why do we let the baggage of our past keep us
from moving forward?
Several
years ago I went through a difficult time with some of my closest friends.  These were women that I did almost everything
with: they were “my people.”  We raised
our children together, went to church together, served together, laughed,
cried, and shared life together. Our husbands were friends and our kids were
the best playmates.  They were as close
to me as family. 
But
something happened along the way… 
Gossip
was whispered. 
Unkind
words were spoken.
Accusations
were made.
Alliances
were formed. 
It
turned ugly very quickly and we all contributed to the problem.  The group split up amidst heartache and many
hurt feelings.  It was a terrible time in
my life. 
I
kept thinking:
How
could this happen to group of women who loved Jesus?
At
what point did we take our eyes off of Him and turn on each other?  I felt shame, guilt, and betrayal.  It was hard for me to move on…I did not
know where to go or even how to get there.
What
do you do with such brokenness? 
How
do you forgive? 
How
do you heal from such deep wounds?
During
that period, I spent a lot of time alone praying and reading God’s word.  I felt I had nowhere else to turn but to Him,
but that is exactly where I needed to go! 
I think God does that to us sometimes. 
He takes away everyone else, humbles us, and allows us to return to Him
for what we needed all along.
The
only way we are truly healed of our brokenness and pain is to go to the Healer.
These
are the important lessons I learned as I tried to move on from the pain and
regret of the past.
1)        
SEEK WISDOM
I
looked for trustworthy (older and wiser) godly women to help guide me and keep
me accountable.  I shared with them
everything that happened, confessing my own failures and shortcomings too.  I allowed them to speak truth into my life
and I took their advice.
Where no counsel is, the
people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.
Proverbs 11:14
    2)  
CONFESS AND ASK FOR
FORGIVENESS
I
sought forgiveness.  I apologized to
those I had hurt intentionally and unintentionally hoping for reconciliation
and restoration. 
I
have to honestly tell you that most of the relationships were not fully
restored, but I am content with that because I know I did what God asked of me
in trying to make things right.
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt
believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be
saved.
Romans 10:9
   3)  
FORGIVE…AND KEEP
FORGIVING
I
forgave those who wronged me even when they did not ask for it.  This was a daily struggle for me for a long
time, but I was intentional about doing this until my heart softened and I
could let go of the pain and hurt.
Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin
against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?  Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee,
Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Matthew 18:21- 22
   4)  
LEARN FROM THE PAST
I
learned from my mistakes.  I was much
more prayerful and intentional about forming new friendships.  I go to God now (instead of others) when I am
hurt or frustrated by what other people do. 
I try to give more grace and acceptance. 
I realize that only God can meet all of my needs.
When I was a
child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but
when I became a man, I put away childish things.
1Corinthians 13:11
   5)  
TRUST GOD TO BRING
HOPE FROM HURT
One
the verses God gave me during this very dark time is found in Isaiah 43:18-19:
“Remember not the former
things,
Nor consider the things of
old.
Behold, I am doing a new
thing;
Now it springs forth, do you
not perceive it?
I will make a way in the
wilderness and rivers in the desert
.”
God
graciously allowed me to move on from the past by providing a way through the
wilderness.  He told me to forget the
former things and look for the new thing He would do in my life.  And He did it! 
I
do not know what pain and hurt you are carrying from your past today,
friend.  But I do know that God wants to
free you from it.  He wants to give you
His forgiveness as you grant that same forgiveness to those who have hurt or
wronged you. 
He
says He has “removed our sins as far as the east is from the west” (Psalm
103:12), so we can rest in that promise. 
When we let go of the baggage from the past, we are free to run in forgiveness,
hope, and peace in rivers He will make for us in the
desert.
For Further Reading:
Prayer Prompt
Lord, heal me completely from
every scar. I choose to lay aside all the burden and guilt from unforgiveness
and bitterness.
Lord bind my broken heart let
me experience peace and rest in you in Jesus Name. Amen
About the Author: Carla Gasser
When not teaching, writing or speaking, I am most myself as a wife and mom living in Hudson, Ohio with my four very active children (ages 18, 16, 14, &10). I am married to Michael, my childhood friend and high school sweetheart, over 24 years ago and feel very fortunate to have such a loving, generous and level headed partner and best friend.
I also enjoy serving in the women’s ministry at my church, mentoring young women, and volunteering in the local public schools my children attend.  I continue to teach Bible studies and have a passion for local outreach.  
You can learn more about me and my ministry by visiting 
AT THE CROSSROADSor http://carlagasser.com/




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30 thoughts on “It is time to B-R-E-A-T-H-E (Day 6)”

    • It is good to remember that it is a process, Barbie. God is still healing my wounds and it has been several years now. I am thankful that His grace is sufficient!

  1. I've been there, too, and nothing hurts more than the betrayal of a friend. I found that praying for healing was key to helping me get over my hurt feelings (and praying for those who hurt me was very important, too).

  2. I love how you broke this down; learning how to deal with conflict and betrayal like this is so important since it a risk in every relationship. The only way we can avoid it is to avoid people altogether. Great advice! Focusing on God, being intentional and prayerful are key to becoming like Christ in our relationships. Thanks so much for sharing!
    -Sara, uncommongrace.net

  3. I found this from the Teaching What is Good link up, I'm going to pin it so I won't forget to do this study! It looks wonderful and like something all of us can use. I'm excited to return and read! Thanks.

  4. Forgiveness is so important to our Christian walk and can affect us if we don't. We have someone in our life who just won't forgive and it is so sad to see how she is suffering from bitterness, it is making her ill. Thank you for sharing this very important post with us at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

  5. You did the right thing to apologize and leave it in their ball park. Jesus is the FORGIVER and when we find it difficult to forgive, we can come to him and ask Him to forgive the person through us. He filters in forgiveness and we allow it to flow out. Thanks for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story. Your series is encouraging and enlightening.

  6. This such a great series. I have found that you are next to me at various linkups and am getting the different letters so am breathing in all aspects. Sometimes, those hard times, those hurts turn out to be beautiful lessons in the long run, if we would only leave them at the door of the prayer closet and come sit with God alone.
    Visiting today from W2W.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

  7. Carla, it can be so hard to "let it go" until we remember that letting it go frees us to hold onto God. Thank you, Ifeoma, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )

  8. This is such a great post, Carla. And its so true…the moment we turn our attention, our hearts, away from Jesus is the moment we begin to stumble. So sorry for your pain, but I pray that God has taught you MUCH from the experience and that it has made you more like Christ. On the journey with you, friend. #DanceWithJesus
    SheilaKimball.com

  9. Great post, words of Truth shared from the heart, a heart filled with Him – it comes through so beautifully. Visiting from #DanceWithJesus Have a great Friday!

  10. It's so easy to get caught up in the hurt and if we are not careful to deal with it with wisdom, we can end up using it as a shield of self-protection that keeps our pain walled in and new relationships out. Such great wisdom here!

  11. Lovely post. You're my neighbor at Five Minute Fridays. I "follow" your line of thinking on friendships. When our family lived in GA I was hurt badly by some of my "friends" there. Some of those friendships were restored and one was never repaired. I appreciated your #2 point that in forgiving her and talking to her and God about that relationship…that is enough. I pray you have a lovely weekend with your four children! My husband and I have a quiet house so I'm enjoying the morning with him as we have our kids at my parents last night. 🙂 Hope your friendship with you husband is always very special! Jenn

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