7 Red-flag Your Premarital Counselor will show you

7 Red-flag areas your Premarital
Counselor will show you

With the alarming rate of divorce, separations within the Christian
faith, I wonder if there is something we are missing? Is our generation
departing from Godly principles to go the way of the world? Is there anything
like a peaceful home?
Many more questions like these abound in my heart and also
in the heart of those who care for ‘God’s Family’. 

While growing up, I have
always longed for a home filled with love and peace of God. This desire made me
seek God’s face early with prayers.

Truthfully, ‘no good
marriage exists without work’
.
The process of ‘work’ doesn’t
begin at the altar but during courtship
.
So important is the premarital counselling we engage in.Why do you need a marriage counselor?

You and your spouse are separate entities with different
backgrounds and home training, different taste of life and at different
spiritual maturity. You need a spiritually matured counselor to guide you
through the overwhelming experience of getting married and more importantly,
staying married.

A counselor can open your eyes to potential red flags just
before you say I do. These red-flags are:
1.           
Freedom from past hurtful relationships. We all carry baggage from our past. It
is a time to revisit key issues that could potentially disorganize your home. Past
fears and failures may pose a hindrance to a peaceful home.
2.           
Parental issues. For the most part, your parents’ lives
influence your view on marriage. Are you from a broken home? You have to
believe that God can make your new home different as you prayerfully work it
out.
3.           
Secret sins. Pornography is a secret sin both or
one of the intended spouses may be guilty of. Alarming but true, porn addiction
is demonic and freedom can be achieved by breaking the hold through prayers,
fasting and the Word of God. Dealing with these issues before marriage is
advisable.
         Also included is, avoiding premarital sex (fornication). Your counselor will expose the dangers of defiling your bed just before you say “I DO”.
4.           
Unrealistic marital expectations. Despite your desire to marry a good
man, make sure your criteria is based on God’s words and not on your selfish
desires. Disappointment, bitterness and an unfulfilled life may arise when we
feel our spouses are falling short of our expectations.
5.           
Parental consent. Like Abraham, many parents have
desires about their kids. The reasons behind parental disagreements should be
resolved and accompanied by prayers too.
6.           
History of Abuse. Family history of abuse and violence
are silent warnings. A believer can only prayerfully break these family
histories that could resurface in their own homes.
7.           
Maturity. Marriage is not meant for boys and
girls but for men and women willing and ready to commit their all into each other’s
lives.
Today, I focus on counselling, for
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Have you benefited from a counselor? Please encourage as many people with your kind comments.

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18 thoughts on “7 Red-flag Your Premarital Counselor will show you”

  1. My husband and I taught the Pre-Marital Class at our church for many years and have done a great deal of pre-marital counseling. You are absolutely right … it is essential! We don't allow couples to marry at our church without it. Thanks for linking up at Mondays @ Soul Survival. Blessings!

    • Hello Donna, I am glad this list is in order. We take too many things for granted including Premarital Counselling.I hope many assemblies take it more seriously.

      I appreciate your kind comments here.
      God Bless

  2. Thank you for sharing this review with us at Good Morning Mondays. You are right marriage is for men and women and we should face that with Christ as the centre. Blessings.

  3. It is so important that potential spouses seek marriage counseling early in the courting process! Once emotions have been allowed to become established, it may hinder the believers ability or willingness to listen to the Holy Spirit about warning signals. Thank you for this great post!

  4. There are so many separations in the church that it breaks the heart. This article is very timely. Thank you for sharing it on the Art of Home-Making Mondays!

  5. A beautiful list for individuals (soon to be couples) to look over and prepare for. This is an excellent resource for many singles, and not many are taking time to aim articles at singles. Thank you for addressing this population in a loving and godly manner.
    Blessings,

    • Thank you so much Deborah. It is high time we began to share genuine Christian marriage experiences so others can learn from them.
      God Bless and thank you for your penning down your comments here. It is highly appreciated.

  6. Thank you for sharing these with us at Grace & Truth. Yes, our premarital counseling was well worth the time we put into it. God really used it to bless our relationship as a couple, and to strengthen our relationship with Him!

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