Exclusive interview with Ngina Otiende, Book Review and a Give Away

Exclusive interview
with Ngina
Book Review and a Give Away
Meet Ngina:

Ngina is married to her best friend
Tommy. I love being a wife but my husband and I did not have a smooth start in
our marriage.

Though we loved being married to each
other, we encountered bumps and blues in the early days. We thought we were the
only ones but later learned we were not, many young couples go through the same
adjustments we were going though. But like we did, they often think they are
the only ones experiencing such bumps.
We are passionate about enlarging
people’s capacities through education, entrepreneurship and
partnerships. This has spurred our support and awareness for projects close to
our hearts (here’s a link to our charity page). These projects include but not
limited to, marriage conferences and a children’s orphanage.  
My writing focuses on helping newlywed
and early wed wives understand how to navigate the early marriage blues and
 I also enjoy reading alongside writing, exploring
new sights and places with my husband.
I like good food especially African
food and ginger-cardamom tea!
·        How Did Your Passion For Marriage And Singles
Ministry Begin?
It all began from my local church where
I led cell groups, which are a bit
like mastermind groups. As a single lady, I mentored other single sisters and
together we learnt how to live for Christ, grow and enjoy single-hood, be
witness for Jesus and generally live a happy impactful Christ-centred life.
When I got married, my passion
graduated into the marriage ministry owing from my marital status. I still do
some work around the single’s ministry. But now, I realise to a greater extent that
one needs to be healthy and Christ-centred before venturing into the marriage institution”.
·       How long have you been reaching out to married
couples? Please share a most heartfelt testimony with us.
My husband and I soon after we were
married, began working with “intending couples”. Our work includes mentorship, marriage
counselling before and after wedding. Before relocating to the US, we had organised
many marriage retreats through our local church in Kenya.
Our biggest joy has been testimonies shared
by our mentees and attendees on how our work including breakfast meetings,
retreats and counselling had a lasting impact in their relationship. 
·        How did you become a writer and
when you decided to get published?
I have been writing since I was
13 years old. I have many unpublished manuscripts and poems. I always wanted to
get published.
Over the years I heard and read-up on
what it takes to get a traditional publishing deal.  I could not wait for that long; it looked like
such a hustle! This does not imply, I am not open to traditional publishing. My
Blog experience set the stage for my book. I
have a message that needs to be heard and I had to get it out.
Hence this
·        Why this book, Blues to Bliss? Any
special inspiration?
my husband and I walked into marriage with many happy expectations. The truth
is we (permit me to use, I) expected to have all the bliss and happiness
of a glorious relationship without the accompanying work.
 I did not know “a good marriage takes a lot of work!” We soon hit honeymoon blues (those
challenges and adjustments that come when you are start doing life with another
person). This is the inspiration for the book “Blues to Bliss“.
 I want newly wedded wives to know “honeymoon blues don’t signal the end of
wedded bliss
”. You can push through
the blues and find the bliss God intends for you
·        How does it feel, releasing your first book?
feels amazing. Also a bit terrifying because I love excellence (someone
might call it perfection!) but releasing a book is anything but a perfect
end product is rarely perfect; there’s always something we could have said
better, done better! But I am learning to “let it go” and trust God,
that He will reach those that He wants to reach and my imperfections will not
hinder His message. 
·        Your Blog is power packed. How has
your experience been so far
you Ifeoma, it’s a blessing to hear that. The experience has been great, God
has been good.
has inspired wives, changed hearts, corrected and rebuked, encouraged and
lifted up, through the blog. I am just happy and honored to be a vessel. I have
also learned so much about myself and marriage. To be able to teach
and help others, God often has to deepen you. I am grateful that He’s used the
blog to deepen me and challenge me in my life and marriage.

·        Writing and family how do you cope?
it’s a learning process and I haven’t perfected it yet! But often my work day
ends when my husband walks through the door in the evening.
times, I get to wake at night and catch up on things that need to be done. But
as I have worked on this book, especially the last leg, I’ve had to put in
many extra hours, sometimes working into the wee hours of the
far as “balancing” is concerned, it’s more of principle and values –
led; family first (after God) and everything else after. That’s the outlook I
·        What advice for upcoming Christian women who would
like to be authors?
Allow God to tutor your heart first. You’ll never be perfectly whole, but before you
step out to help others, you have to allow God to help you first.
That means going through challenges and
difficulties (I wish there was an easier way to learn!) and allowing God to
perfect His purposes for you without quitting on Him and the dream He’s put in
your heart.

Get ready for hard work! I’ve mentored and helped upcoming authors and
many of them are astounded at the amount of work and effort that goes into
writing a blog, let alone a book! But I tell them that they won’t get good in a
day, but they have to start somewhere.

The thing is don’t look at all the distance you
have to travel, just look at the next step you need to take and be faithful there
. That’s how I wrote this book and I write the
blog. One day a time, one chapter at a time, one post at a time. I have learned
(still learning) not to worry too much about the future and what I will do tomorrow. 
Absolutely plan, but don’t be so
consumed with tomorrow that you forget to work today. Also, never
forget that it’s not your message, it’s not your ministry, it’s not your book.
It’s God’s. Everything you do, everything you are should point to Jesus, not
 ·        What
next after this?
I am already writing my second book,
which is for singles. After that I have drafts for my third and fourth book! I
have other plans that are not directly related to writing, more in the line of
our vision for enlarging people’s capacities through education, entrepreneurship and
partnership. My husband and I trust God for more resources in order to do what
is in our hearts to do.
 Ngina Otiende is the Author of
the newly released book, “Blues to Bliss: Creating Your
Happily-ever-after in the Early Years”.
 In the book she
talks about her early marriage challenges and how God transformed their
relationship through intentional effort and grace and how wives can change the
dynamics of their marriage. 

Book is available on Amazon!

Ngina blogs @ IntentionalToday.com, where
she equips the early-wed wife with tools and resources to create intentional
happily-ever-afters. Connect with Ngina on Facebook, and Pinterest 
Here is the BOOK REVIEW
The Give Away
Ngina permitted me to give “one free digital copy” of her book. How do you
enter? Simple just do the few actions below and stand a chance to win.
·        Go over to Ngina’s blog IntentionalToday.com.
Leave a sweet comment on her book page and like Facebook page.
·        In the comment section below, write
what aspect of this interview inspired you most and like My Facebook
I will announce the winner
on Monday 9th of
February. All entries close 12 midnight on Sunday.
Best wishes! See you on Monday, when I announce the winner

 This Give Away is over!
The winner is Rhoda

6 thoughts on “Exclusive interview with Ngina Otiende, Book Review and a Give Away”

  1. Yes marriage does take a lot of work if you want to have a good one 🙂 Like working at taking every thought captive! Thanks for sharing, that's a great subject to help women with 🙂

  2. Fantastic isn't it? I enjoyed her interview too. She carries so much passion for her work. Thank God for such people.

    Thanks Linda for stopping by and leaving your thoughts here.

    God Bless.

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